Saturday, December 1, 2012

Book Signing Event at Tatnuck Bookseller

 

Sunday, December 09, 2012

Tatnuck Bookseller
Westborough Shopping Center
Route 9 & Lyman Street
Westborough, MA 01581
TITLE: Author Event: Barbara Allen's "Nice Children Stolen From Car", a memoir 
TIME: 1-3 pm
LOCATION: Table at front of store
I'm always glad to meet other COH!  Hope to see some of my Massachusetts supporters there.

Monday, October 22, 2012

A day of unspeakable sadness

A little over a year ago, my husband and I traveled to New Orleans, to gather with other Children of Hoarders at Dr. Chabaud's research center. One of the people I was most interested in meeting was Sidney Patrick, a spunky, sassy, talented writer who had posted comments on my blog and whose blog I had begun to follow.

Sidney in person was exactly how I imagined her to be from her writing: freckle faced and wholesome but with a wit that was razor-sharp and wickedly funny. She was an amazing advocate for the Anti-Hoarding cause, Children of Hoarders' best Champion. She cared deeply about us, and the issues that plague us, a result of the damage we sustained after life in the hoard.

I, for one, can't believe she's gone. What will we do without that bright voice? Who will make us laugh with her crazy chilcken remarks?

I would like to send prayers and deepest condolences to the Patrick family and to Greg, on the loss of dear Sidney.

Feedback

     It has been about six months now since my book, Nice Children Stolen from Car, has been available on Amazon.com, and through several other booksellers. The support from COHs has been phenomenal, and I thank you all for your words of encouragement and recommendations of my book to other COHs.
     Since the book was first released, I've been receiving quite a bit of feedback. The reactions of non-COHs have been as follows:
1) Expressing a desire to hug me, sometimes actually doing so. Here are just two examples: I was waiting in line after church to speak to our minister, when I noticed an older woman, one of my fellow choirmembers, hovering nearby. When I greeted her, she came right up to me and said, "I read your book, and I just want to hug you." She is a lovely woman, but not someone I think of as the "hugging type," but that day she embraced me as if I were her own child.
      A similar scenario occurred at work... my boss had bought the book, read it, and passed it on to her husband, a psychologist. A few days after she had given to him to read, she appeared at the doorway of my cubicle.
     "Stand up," she commanded. I did (she is my boss, after all). She then folded me gently in her arms, gave me warm hug and said, by way of explanation, "That's from Terry [her husband]. He just finished your book."
    That fourteen year old hoarder-home child that still lives somewhere within me has appreciated every one of those hugs/hug offers.
2) Marveling at my "normalcy." If I received a dollar every time I heard the phrase: "But you're so normal!" I would most likely never have to work again.
     When I hear this remark, I usually respond with a laugh and a "Well, relatively so, I guess."
The fact of the matter is that I left my hoarded home almost forty years ago, and it has been a long journey from there to what most people call "normalcy."
3) Trying to explain to me that my father's hoarding was a result of the "Great Depression." I have to admit, I am not very patient with this reaction. To be blunt, it pisses me off.
     A friend of mine's dad actually lived through the Great Depression. His basement has a cabinet with a lot of canned goods, more than his small family needs. When my friend went off to college, her dad sent her with bags and boxes full of food, fearing that his daughter would be hungry.  His home wasn't a fire and health hazard.
     My father didn't live through the Great Depression. It was over when he was an infant. Unlike my friend's father's home, there was never enough food in our house, except for my father. You know those books and movies where there is one scrap of food, one crumb, and the parents give it up for the children... well, not in our house. My father always took the biggest portion and we six kids were left with whatever remained, even if that left us with next to nothing.
     He was truly a hoarder extraordinaire... everything was his.
4) Expressing anger at the way Child Protective Services handled the case.  While I agree that our situation could have been managed better, I remind people that this happened almost forty years ago, and children weren't removed from abusive or even dangerous homes as promptly as they are now.
5) "I never thought about the kids when I was watching "Hoarders."" That's one of the reasons I wrote the book.

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Better link

Joe, Hoarderson, told me that going through this link to order the book will give 70 cents/book to COH, Inc:

http://amzn.to/NCSFC1


I say YAY!!

Here's the link, if that's easier

http://www.amazon.com/Nice-Children-Stolen-Car-1/dp/1475192630/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1337734821&sr=1-1

Book available starting today

Hi all,
I'm excited to let everyone know that my book, "Nice Children Stolen from Car," is available today. You can find it on Amazon.com, simply type "Nice Children Stolen from Car" into th search box.
So many of you have supported me through my blog by the same name; it is good to finally have the project finished!
Enjoy!

Saturday, May 19, 2012

Gone So Long...

I know... I've been missing in action for a long time. I can't believe almost seven months have gone by without a single new post.

I have lots of excuses, of course. Work is busy, my hours are long. Our youngest son (the last of 6!!) is graduating from high school, heading off to college, and there's all that prep. We're moving, and the house that we ended up buying was a very difficult deal that took weeks and weeks to work out. Now we're trying to sell our own home, so we don't carry two mortgages for too long.

The thing that kept me busiest, however, was Nice Children Stolen from Car, the book.

 I'm happy to say that it should be available through Amazon.com by the end of this week. Look for it by the title, Nice Children Stolen from Car, or search the site by plugging in the words "hoarding," "hoarders," "child abuse," "nice children."

If you liked the stories you've read here, you'll love the book!



 
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